Mother Is A Choice To Be One: Mother Instinct Is A Myth

Motherhood is considered to be an innate instinct that drives women to protect and care for their children. But for some women, maternal instinct is a myth.

Mother instinct or choice?

A mother, of course, knows how to take care of her children. These words sum up the concept known as mother instinct. But every day we observe hundreds of actions that deprive it of this belief that makes it sound like a myth. We start by believing “being a mother is a choice to be one”.

Culturally, most women are brought up to find a partner, get married and multiply. Today, however, we can see an important group of women who have taken their fate into their own hands. For many different reasons, they do not have the motivation, disposition or desire to fulfill this important “role for love”.

To be a mother, it is convenient to have certain emotional maturities that allow you to take on the demanding task of caring for and loving a newborn baby.

Are you ready to become a mother?

Experience, feeling, education and social environment are factors that can influence a woman’s decision on whether to become a mother.

The decision to have children is one that a mother has to make on her own. To make this decision, it is important to be aware of what motherhood entails. This awareness is fundamental to the baby’s future.

It is very important to have a clear plan for what we want to meet our own expectations as women and mothers.

Some women prefer to get their professional careers on track first. It is to get a solid financial base before they take the step towards motherhood. With financial security, they can search for someone to help them, with the big task of taking care of their child. In the meantime, they can focus on their careers.

For other women, becoming a mother is their top priority. They take care of the task of taking care of their child from the moment they are born.

The support of family members and her partner is important. They will help provide the emotional tools and financial support, to give the new child a good start.

Aspects to keep in mind before becoming a mother

Being a mother is a unique and joyful experience. The perfect moment in life to become a mother does not exist. However, it is good to have security, and consider some factors to make a responsible decision.

• Remember your partner’s opinion. Make sure it’s a good time in the relationship. Does your partner also want to have a child?
• Although the recommended age for childbirth is between 18 and 22,  any woman with a maternal instinct can have the capacity and sufficient resources to take care of her child. 
• Advice from a healthcare professional is one of the most important steps to take before becoming a mother.
• Before considering having a baby, it is important to  stay away from dangerous habits that could harm the baby’s health. Habits such as smoking, alcohol, diets with high fat content and sugar etc.

Some advice

Here are some more tips for making the decision to become a mother.

• Think about how many children you want.
• You should  talk to your partner first. Find out if they are ready and have the right conditions for a collaboration about the child.

• In case of being a single mother who decides to have a child,  then consider having a reserve fund in advance. It will help in case of unexpected events.
• If you think you are not competent to become a good mother but still want a baby,  contact a professional. They can help inform you on how to best deal with your doubts.

The most important step is to be aware that it is a very big life change. You must have an open heart and mind. It will enable you to raise your children with love and commitment.