Goodnight Mom: Why Bedtime Is The Best Part Of The Day

Sometimes all our problems go away in an instant, like when we wish our kids good night, when it’s bedtime, and look at them while they sleep.

There is no need to mention once again that motherhood and the upbringing of children are complicated and challenging tasks. You already know that.

But in a way,  having a child makes life easier. In fact, it’s something you’ve probably noticed already.

Your child makes every fight worth the effort. They give you a reason to keep going every day. They are everything.

Surprisingly, this approach can actually improve your health and well-being.

According to a study by the University of Finland, parents who do not know how to deal with stress risk are good at passing on anxiety patterns to their children.

And one thing that contributes to this is by not knowing how to appreciate the little things in life.

With that in mind, it’s never a bad time to think about something simple that you may have even told yourself over and over again: Problems, daily pressures, and anxiety should be left out of the home and out of the reach of children. When we are with our little ones, they need to be able to see that they are our highest priority and the reason for our happiness.

I do not want to go to bed, mother!

Experts in family dynamics therapy often give a very simple piece of advice: we should never go to bed angry at our partners.

It is also something we should use with our children.

• In many homes, bedtime can become a struggle, and is often the source of rage.
• Our little ones are often reluctant to leave their toys and games, to go to bed. Sometimes the only thing parents can do is drag their children to their room. When this happens, the day ends negatively with everyone in a bad mood.

If this situation goes on day after day, plus the stress of work and other pressures, bedtime can potentially become quite traumatic.

In fact, it should be the most magical moment of the day.

I will say goodnight and stay with you until you fall asleep

We know that opinions about when children should go to bed vary widely, as do family routines.

Some parents come home late from work and do not want to miss an hour or two with their children.

These parents also need to spend time with their children, hug them, ask how their day has been and tell them how much they missed them.

Each family has its norms, its internal dynamics that suit their own characteristics and needs. But there are a few basic guidelines that we can not ignore.

As we mentioned above, these tips will help you give bedtime a better impression on your children.

A relaxed good night

If your schedule allows, it is a good idea to establish a routine before bedtime. One hour before you say goodnight, turn off the TV or other electronic device and relax.

• A bath before bedtime is always a good idea.
• Put  your kids to bed and let go for a moment before saying goodnight.  Talk about anything that interests them, laugh together, or just read a story.

This process must take place without fights or protests. If children can get used to this routine from an early age, they will find it quite natural later.

Bedtime is there to talk about emotions, not worries

It’s parents who say goodnight fast and hurry away. If their child wants to talk, they say, “It’s time to sleep now. Mom is tired. ”

• Of course you are tired at this time of day. But even a brief moment can etch itself into your child’s emotional memory. When we sit on the side of their bed and read them a story, give a promise, wish them good night or even sit with them quietly until they sleep. Looking at their dreams; enjoying their company after a stressful day.

Do not forget to enjoy these important moments. Your children will not be children forever. It is important to be present and enjoy the present.