Mothers Also Cry Over Exhaustion, Stress And Fear

There are days when even mothers reach their limits and break down in tears. She can not cope anymore, her exhaustion captivates her until she puts her shiny armor aside to reveal a woman who just needs a moment alone.

Do not worry or think that you are about to go down with depression if this has happened to you on more than one occasion. The stress of raising one or more children, combined with other factors, can lead us mothers into difficult situations. In these moments , it is necessary to stop for a second, de-stress and regain your thoughts and feelings.

Although we are talking about “mothers”, we are also very aware that fathers can go through the same situation. Believe it or not, these situations can have their own benefits.

We all sometimes strive to be the best mothers and fathers that we can be. We try to control every part of our child’s upbringing, while we try to give them the best of ourselves.

It is not easy to maintain this high demand of ourselves every day. When we reach the limit, we realize that we must also take care of ourselves, even though our children are our top priority.

You will not become a bad mother because you give yourself time to relax for half an hour. There is no one who has the right to criticize you for giving you time to take care of yourself.

This is the only way you will be able to give your children your best. We suggest that you reflect on this.

Physical and emotional exhaustion

The feeling of exhaustion does not mean being tired of our children. It’s not a sign of weakness when you say “I can not handle it anymore.”

The remorse we feel when we think this way is sometimes worse than the physical and emotional exhaustion that we feel. Therefore, it is beneficial to understand and rationalize some basic aspects.

A Mother or Father, who “multitask”

Children do not educate themselves. They constantly need our full attention. As if that were not enough, raising children and giving them the necessary attention and education is usually added to the responsibility of taking care of the home or a job.

Multitasking can be one of our most greedy enemies. We may be effective at multitasking for one month, two months, or maybe five months, but there comes a time when our minds and bodies cannot maintain this level of exertion.

When our inner voice tells us “I have to achieve everything”, but our brain responds with “I can not handle it anymore”, then stress begins to create chaos in our bodies.

• Fatigue turns into pain. Our limbs and bones begin to hurt; we feel a pressure in our chest.
• Our heart rate rises, we suffer from indigestion, diarrhea and constipation.
• When we reach the limit, we sometimes react incorrectly by using ugly words such as “shut up” or “let me be” almost unintentionally. There are words we say without thinking about our children’s feelings, and this eventually makes them sad.

The pressure of high demands

We have intense demands and pressures placed on us by society, family and by ourselves. We want to be “supermothers” who are always up to date when it comes to parenting. Mothers who give their best to their children, who strive to have happy, wise and responsible children…

There is no need to meet unrealistic demands. In fact, it is enough to raise happy and healthy children with good self-esteem who have happy mothers and fathers.

Parents should know how to enjoy the small moments of everyday life. This is something that stress does not allow us to do.

We need to change some small patterns.

It is necessary for mothers to cry and take care of themselves

You first need to understand that it is not necessary or recommended to be the “perfect mom or dad”. The key is to know how to be present when our children need us. Once you understand this, try to reflect on the following advice.

• Every day will be different and different things will be required of you when it comes to teaching and taking care of a child. Take these challenges calmly without worrying too much. Live in the moment with your children.

• It’s okay if you cry, and it’s fine too if your kids see you cry. Tell them that “mom needs a moment” and that we all need to cry once in a while to get “stronger”. Remember that emotional relief is always good.
• Do not carry all the responsibility, fear, pressure and doubt on your shoulders. Share them with your partner and family. Ask your pediatrician if you have any doubts or concerns about your child.
• You have the right to enjoy moments of leisure, relaxation and privacy. You are not a “bad mom” if you give yourself an hour or two a day to be yourself.
• Find support in your group of friends or with other mothers. In these groups, you can share experience and discover that you are not actually the only one who cries in secret, feels exhausted, or has doubts.

It’s all a normal process that allows us to become more aware of ourselves. It helps us see where we can improve. Enjoy the adventure of being a mom, but do not neglect yourself. You are the most important person for your children.